Sugesti Positif Untuk Anak Jelang Tidur
Teknik hypnoparenting, disadari atau tidak, sebenarnya bukan hal baru.
Orangtua Anda boleh jadi sudah mempraktikkannya. Mungkin Anda ingat,
dulu, ibu atau nenek Anda membelai lembut rambut Anda saat Anda merebah
di pangkuannya. Lalu, mereka mengucapkan kata-kata berisi harapan
sekaligus mendoakan Anda agar tumbuh menjadi anak yang sehat, cerdas,
berbudi atau apapun harapan yang dipanjatkannya.
Mengasuh dan mendidik anak dengan cinta kasih, inilah dasar dari teknik
hypnoparenting yang dituliskan secara ilmiah namun praktis dan aplikatif
oleh Dr Dewi Yogo Pratomo, MHt, penulis yang juga berprofesi sebagai
pengajar, dosen, penceramah, konsultan sumber daya manusia.
Kata-kata positif inilah yang memengaruhi tumbuh kembang anak, bahkan
mengatasi berbagai kesulitan yang dihadapi orangtua saat mengasuh anak.
Adalah menjadi tugas dan tanggung jawab orangtua untuk memberikan
sugesti positif kepada anak menggunakan teknik hypnoparenting ini.
Tantrum di tempat umum, perilaku anak ini seringkali membuat orangtua
kesulitan menghadapinya. Bahkan ketika anak mengompol padahal usianya
sudah bukan lagi prasekolah, ini juga terjadi karena sebab. “Biasanya
anak memiliki kekhawatiran tertentu yang membuat ia mengompol, ini perlu
dicari sebabnya, dan berbagai hal yang dialami anak dapat diatasi
dengan teknik hypnoparenting,” jelas Dr Dewi saat peluncuran bukunya di
Jakarta, beberapa waktu lalu.
Berbagai masalah yang dihadapi orangtua saat mengasuh anak dapat
teratasi dengan hypnoparenting. Anak yang mengalami kesulitan tidur pun
bisa diatasi dengan metode hypnosis yang dipraktikkan orangtuanya.
Mekanismenya dengan memberi sinyal di alam bawah sadar, kata Dr Dewi.
“Untuk anak, kata kuncinya, sayang dan pintar. Hypnosis menjinakkan
‘otak dinosaurus’ yang ada dalam diri setiap orang. Apa yang Anda
katakan kepada anak itu adalah doa. Ucapkan sugesti positif secara
berulang, karena hypnosis merupakan pengulangan. Metode hypnosis mudah
diterapkan siapa saja dan untuk semua lapisan,” jelasnya.
Buku HypnoParenting karangan Dr Dewi bahkan menjelaskan dengan sangat
detil metode pengasuhan ini. Anda akan dibantu untuk membuat naskah
sugesti positif dan bagaimana mempraktikkannya kepada anak-anak. Untuk
memahami metode hypnosis, buku ini juga menyertakan audio CD sehingga
para orangtua dapat memelajari teknik hypnoparenting lebih maksimal.
Mengenai kapan waktu tepat untuk memberikan sugesti positif kepada anak,
Dr Dewi menjelaskan, “Perdengarkan CD sambil membaca naskah yang ada di
buku, saat anak setengah tidur. Jelang tidur, saat mata anak mulai
berat, tak menjawab saat ditanya, inilah momentum paling tepat untuk
memasukkan sugesti positif.”
Seperti apa sugesti positif untuk anak? Tentu hal ini bergantung
kebutuhan dan masalah yang ingin dipecahkan orangtua. Dr Dewi
mencontohkan, jika masalah utama anak adalah sulit bangun pagi, maka
berikan sugesti positif dengan mengatakan kepadanya jelang tidur, bahwa
ia bisa bangun pagi esok hari untuk bersiap ke sekolah.
“Lakukan sugesti positif pengulangan 11-12 kali berturut-turut, 10 menit
sebelum tidur, sehari dua kali dan ditutup dengan pelukan,” saran Dr
Dewi menambahkan untuk anak penderita autisme perdengarkan audio CD
selama satu jam sekali sesi.
Teknik ini dapat dilakukan siapa saja, termasuk orangtua yang cenderung
pendiam atau sulit mengungkapkan ekspresi kepada anak-anaknya. “Anak
adalah produk orangtuanya. Anak yang pendiam merupakan produk orangtua
yang pendiam. Anak itu peniru ulung. Inilah waktunya orangtua
introspeksi sambil mempraktikkan metode hypnosis untuk mengatasi
berbagai masalah pengasuhan,” jelasnya.
Sugesti positif yang diberikan kepada anak bisa berbeda antara orangtua
satu dengan lainnya, lanjut Dr Dewi. Anda bebas memberikan sugesti apa
saja. “Hypnosis ini seperti berpidato, opening dan closingnya sama,
yakni tarik nafas dalam-dalam. Sugesti yang diberikan bisa dibongkar
pasang sesuai kebutuhan orangtua dan anak,” jelasnya.
Membacakan dongeng
Bagi pendidik dan cendekiawan, Komaruddin Hidayat, orangtua zaman dulu
sudah mempraktikkan teknik hypnoparenting. “Dulu, saat nenek saya
mengaji, ia mengelus dahi saya sambil mengatakan nanti saya mencangkul
dengan pulpen, dan sebagainya. Apa yang dilakukan nenek, setelah saya
membaca teorinya, adalah metode hypnosis. Orangtua di kampung telah
melakukannya dan itu efektif,” ungkapnya saat sesi bincang-bincang buku
di acara yang sama.
Sugesti juga bisa dilakukan saat anak sedang merengek di mal misalnya. “Jongkok, samakan level mata Anda dan anak, gunakan suara perut, tatap mata anak, tarik nafas, lalu ucapkan sugesti positif kepadanya, dan akhiri dengan pelukan. Anak-anak akan tahu sebenarnya orangtuanya sedang memberikannya kasih sayang,” papar Dr Dewi.
Sugesti positif merupakan bentuk komunikasi orangtua-anak. Sekecil apapun anak harus dibiasakan berkomunikasi. “Jangan mendidik anak menjadi manipulatif. Jika anak merengek dan direspons orangtua dengan memberikan apa saja yang diminta, ini akan menjadi kebiasaan baginya,” tandasnya.
Sugesti juga bisa dilakukan saat anak sedang merengek di mal misalnya. “Jongkok, samakan level mata Anda dan anak, gunakan suara perut, tatap mata anak, tarik nafas, lalu ucapkan sugesti positif kepadanya, dan akhiri dengan pelukan. Anak-anak akan tahu sebenarnya orangtuanya sedang memberikannya kasih sayang,” papar Dr Dewi.
Sugesti positif merupakan bentuk komunikasi orangtua-anak. Sekecil apapun anak harus dibiasakan berkomunikasi. “Jangan mendidik anak menjadi manipulatif. Jika anak merengek dan direspons orangtua dengan memberikan apa saja yang diminta, ini akan menjadi kebiasaan baginya,” tandasnya.
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Positive Suggestion To Children Before Sleep
Hypnoparenting techniques, consciously or not, was not new. Your parents may have already put it into practice. Perhaps you remember, first, mother or grandmother gently stroking your hair when you lie down on his lap. Then,
they say the words of hope at the same time praying for your child to
grow into a healthy, intelligent, virtuous or any expectation that
dipanjatkannya.
Care for and educate children with love, this is the basis of a written hypnoparenting techniques scientifically, but practical and applied by Dr Dewi Yogo Pratomo, MHT, a writer who also works as a teacher, lecturer, speaker, consultant human resources.
Positive words this is what affects growth and development of children, even to overcome the difficulties faced by parents when caring for children. It is the duty and responsibility of parents to give positive suggestions to the child using this hypnoparenting technique.
Tantrums in public places, this child's behavior often makes it difficult to deal with parents. Even when the child wet the bed when he was already no longer a preschool, this also happens because of causes. "Usually the child has specific concerns that make it wet, it is necessary to find why, and something that happened to a child can be overcome with hypnoparenting techniques," explains Dr. Goddess at her book launch in Jakarta, some time ago.
Various problems faced by parents when caring for children can be resolved with hypnoparenting. Children who have trouble sleeping can be overcome by the method of hypnosis is practiced his parents. The mechanism by giving a signal in the subconscious, said Dr. Goddard.
"For children, the key words, affectionate and smart. Hypnosis to tame 'dinosaur brain' that exists in everyone. What do you say to a child that is prayer. Say positive suggestion repeatedly, because hypnosis is repetition. Easy to implement methods of hypnosis anyone and for all layers, "he explained.
HypnoParenting book written by Dr Dewi even explain in great detail this method of parenting. You will be helped to make the script a positive suggestion and how to practice them to children. To understand the methods of hypnosis, this book also includes an audio CD so that parents can learn techniques hypnoparenting more leverage.
Regarding when the right time to give positive suggestions to the child, Dr Dewi explained, "Perdengarkan CD while reading the script that is in the book, when the child half-asleep. Before bedtime, when the eyes of a child starting weight, did not answer when asked, this is the most appropriate moment to insert a positive suggestion. "
What kind of positive suggestion for children? Of course this is dependent needs and problems to be solved parents. Dr Dewi pointed out, if the child's main problem is difficult to get up early, then give a positive suggestion, saying to him before bedtime, that he could wake up tomorrow morning to get ready for school.
"Perform 11-12 repetitions of positive suggestion consecutive times, 10 minutes before bedtime, twice a day and closed with a hug," advises Dr. Dewi added for children with autism perdengarkan audio CD for an hour once a session.
This technique can be done by anyone, including parents who tend to be quiet or difficult expressions reveal to his children. "The child is the product of his parents. Quiet child who is a product of parents who are quiet. The boy was skilful imitator. It is time parents introspection while practicing the method of hypnosis to overcome various problems of parenting, "he explained.
Positive suggestions given to children may differ between parents with each other, said Dr. Goddard. You are free to give any suggestion. "Hypnosis is like a speech, opening and closingnya same, namely, breathing deeply. The suggestions can be dismantled pairs according to the needs of parents and children, "he explained.
Care for and educate children with love, this is the basis of a written hypnoparenting techniques scientifically, but practical and applied by Dr Dewi Yogo Pratomo, MHT, a writer who also works as a teacher, lecturer, speaker, consultant human resources.
Positive words this is what affects growth and development of children, even to overcome the difficulties faced by parents when caring for children. It is the duty and responsibility of parents to give positive suggestions to the child using this hypnoparenting technique.
Tantrums in public places, this child's behavior often makes it difficult to deal with parents. Even when the child wet the bed when he was already no longer a preschool, this also happens because of causes. "Usually the child has specific concerns that make it wet, it is necessary to find why, and something that happened to a child can be overcome with hypnoparenting techniques," explains Dr. Goddess at her book launch in Jakarta, some time ago.
Various problems faced by parents when caring for children can be resolved with hypnoparenting. Children who have trouble sleeping can be overcome by the method of hypnosis is practiced his parents. The mechanism by giving a signal in the subconscious, said Dr. Goddard.
"For children, the key words, affectionate and smart. Hypnosis to tame 'dinosaur brain' that exists in everyone. What do you say to a child that is prayer. Say positive suggestion repeatedly, because hypnosis is repetition. Easy to implement methods of hypnosis anyone and for all layers, "he explained.
HypnoParenting book written by Dr Dewi even explain in great detail this method of parenting. You will be helped to make the script a positive suggestion and how to practice them to children. To understand the methods of hypnosis, this book also includes an audio CD so that parents can learn techniques hypnoparenting more leverage.
Regarding when the right time to give positive suggestions to the child, Dr Dewi explained, "Perdengarkan CD while reading the script that is in the book, when the child half-asleep. Before bedtime, when the eyes of a child starting weight, did not answer when asked, this is the most appropriate moment to insert a positive suggestion. "
What kind of positive suggestion for children? Of course this is dependent needs and problems to be solved parents. Dr Dewi pointed out, if the child's main problem is difficult to get up early, then give a positive suggestion, saying to him before bedtime, that he could wake up tomorrow morning to get ready for school.
"Perform 11-12 repetitions of positive suggestion consecutive times, 10 minutes before bedtime, twice a day and closed with a hug," advises Dr. Dewi added for children with autism perdengarkan audio CD for an hour once a session.
This technique can be done by anyone, including parents who tend to be quiet or difficult expressions reveal to his children. "The child is the product of his parents. Quiet child who is a product of parents who are quiet. The boy was skilful imitator. It is time parents introspection while practicing the method of hypnosis to overcome various problems of parenting, "he explained.
Positive suggestions given to children may differ between parents with each other, said Dr. Goddard. You are free to give any suggestion. "Hypnosis is like a speech, opening and closingnya same, namely, breathing deeply. The suggestions can be dismantled pairs according to the needs of parents and children, "he explained.
Read fairy tales
For educators and scholars, Komaruddin Hidayat, parents already practicing ancient techniques hypnoparenting. "Once, when my grandmother Koran, he stroked my forehead saying I'll hoe with a pen, and so on. What did the grandmother, after I read the theory, is the method of hypnosis. Parents in the village have done it and it's effective, "he said during a book talk sessions at the same event.
Suggestion can also be done when the child was whining at the mall for example. "Squatting, equate you and your child's eye level, use a sound stomach, face eyes, take a deep breath, and speak to him a positive suggestion, and end with a hug. Children will know the real parents are giving it affection, "said Dr. Goddard.
Positive suggestion is a form of parent-child communication. No matter how small children must get used to communicating. "Do not educate children to be manipulative. If the child whines and parents responded by giving what was asked, this will become a habit for him, "he said.
For educators and scholars, Komaruddin Hidayat, parents already practicing ancient techniques hypnoparenting. "Once, when my grandmother Koran, he stroked my forehead saying I'll hoe with a pen, and so on. What did the grandmother, after I read the theory, is the method of hypnosis. Parents in the village have done it and it's effective, "he said during a book talk sessions at the same event.
Suggestion can also be done when the child was whining at the mall for example. "Squatting, equate you and your child's eye level, use a sound stomach, face eyes, take a deep breath, and speak to him a positive suggestion, and end with a hug. Children will know the real parents are giving it affection, "said Dr. Goddard.
Positive suggestion is a form of parent-child communication. No matter how small children must get used to communicating. "Do not educate children to be manipulative. If the child whines and parents responded by giving what was asked, this will become a habit for him, "he said.
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